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Aunt Carol just texted me to complain that I haven't bought her the eyeshadow she asked for a week ago yet.
Last week when she asked me to get it for her, I told her I was busy and she would have to wait a bit.
But apparently it's been too long because she went off on me with "the last time I asked you to get makeup for me you waited SO LONG to get it that they stopped making it!!!"
I remember that item. It was discontinued 1-1/2 years before she asked me to get it for her. The one she found was on Amazon was a knock off, but she assumed it was currently being made.
I explained that to her at the time but it seems that all she remembers is I'm an asshole who waited too long and she didn't get her makeup, so she comes at me with "don't wait so long this time or they'll stop making this one too!"
It's a good thing my head is in a good place or all these fuckheads would be convincing me that I was the one who was remembering wrong and fucking things up.
Nope. Nice try. Now I'm not gonna get you the eyeshadow either. Go ask your sister-in-law to get it for you.
Oh and the reason Carol "can't" get it herself is because she refuses to learn how to order things online. And she's not allowed to have credit cards because she maxes them out (she has no money and no job and lives off of everyone else bc they let her) and kept giving the number out to friends who would spend money on them too. Because that's a normal thing to do right? 🙄
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Jul. 28th, 2022 01:45 pmaunt carol: that lump on my forehead isn’t going down
me: yeah there’s a blood packet beneath your skin. that’s what happens when you hit your head THAT HARD.
aunt carol: i’ve been poking and rubbing at it to-
me: NO. stop.
aunt carol: but i want it to go down
me: it’ll take a couple months to break up just leave it alone
aunt carol: but it’s squishy
me: STOP TOUCHING IT
aunt carol: but it’s sticking out funny shouldn’t it be going down now that the swelling is going away?
me: what part of blood packet are you not getting. you whumped your head so hard your body made a PILLOW to help you heal and to keep more things from happening to your skull until you recover. stop touching it.
aunt carol: squi.sheee.hurt.eee.
me: don’t call me when you bust it open i’m tired of life
me: yeah there’s a blood packet beneath your skin. that’s what happens when you hit your head THAT HARD.
aunt carol: i’ve been poking and rubbing at it to-
me: NO. stop.
aunt carol: but i want it to go down
me: it’ll take a couple months to break up just leave it alone
aunt carol: but it’s squishy
me: STOP TOUCHING IT
aunt carol: but it’s sticking out funny shouldn’t it be going down now that the swelling is going away?
me: what part of blood packet are you not getting. you whumped your head so hard your body made a PILLOW to help you heal and to keep more things from happening to your skull until you recover. stop touching it.
aunt carol: squi.sheee.hurt.eee.
me: don’t call me when you bust it open i’m tired of life
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Jul. 27th, 2022 03:59 pmReal life has REALLY been hitting hard and getting in the way of writing and doing fun fandom stuff for a couple months now 😭
There’s good things happening too -- it’s not all bad, but damn, I just wanna write and forget about real life, ya know?!
* new A/C units were painfully expensive but our A/C works better than it has since we moved in and our electric bill is 1/3 less than it used to be!
* the new back door on the house was more expensive than I thought it would be and while replacing it they busted the OTHER door opposite so I had to replace BOTH back doors but they’re SO PRETTY
* my truck battery went out and I’ve had to coordinate friends/family picking things up for me (stuff at drive-thrus like meds) instead of doing it myself but Charlie replaced the battery yesterday (more money) and my truck is working great!
* big local ISP/cable company raised prices AGAIN so I said okay I’m done and have been switching my house, Charlie’s house, and the shop from Cox to other services -- it was A LOT of work, I’m only halfway done, but it’s saving TONS of money a month and we’re getting more channels and better service than before
* Verizon decided to up their prices AND start charging fees if you don’t replace your phone EVERY YEAR and with their service getting worse and worse I decided to switch us -- I haven’t started yet and it’s going to be a HUGE ORDEAL but it’ll be cheaper and hopefully my phone will actually work
* i think our roof might be leaking but i don’t even want to think about this one right now even though that’s a really bad thing to ignore
* both my aunt carol (mom’s sister) and my dad recently fell again -- not enough damage to require ER but it was enough to convince them to finally use walkers as it’s like fall #5 for both of them so that’s a relief
* I usually try to spread inventory re-orders out at the shop but about twice a year they all come due at the same time so I’ve been scrambling to order from NINE manufacturers and it’s so many things 😩 -- I’ve still got 3 places to go but good news is the shop is busy which means we’re making money
Aunt Carol hit her face when she went down, and the bridge of her nose swelled up so much we’ve been calling her a Bajoran (she’s a big Star Trek fan) and it makes her laugh so hard it hurts which is fun 😂
I need a nap, but I’m having trouble sleeping lately, and with all the home stuff going on, I haven’t been able to do my gum/my reset in almost 3 weeks, so my head stuff is flaring a bit.
I miss doing fandom things and gaming and writing 💜
There’s good things happening too -- it’s not all bad, but damn, I just wanna write and forget about real life, ya know?!
* new A/C units were painfully expensive but our A/C works better than it has since we moved in and our electric bill is 1/3 less than it used to be!
* the new back door on the house was more expensive than I thought it would be and while replacing it they busted the OTHER door opposite so I had to replace BOTH back doors but they’re SO PRETTY
* my truck battery went out and I’ve had to coordinate friends/family picking things up for me (stuff at drive-thrus like meds) instead of doing it myself but Charlie replaced the battery yesterday (more money) and my truck is working great!
* big local ISP/cable company raised prices AGAIN so I said okay I’m done and have been switching my house, Charlie’s house, and the shop from Cox to other services -- it was A LOT of work, I’m only halfway done, but it’s saving TONS of money a month and we’re getting more channels and better service than before
* Verizon decided to up their prices AND start charging fees if you don’t replace your phone EVERY YEAR and with their service getting worse and worse I decided to switch us -- I haven’t started yet and it’s going to be a HUGE ORDEAL but it’ll be cheaper and hopefully my phone will actually work
* i think our roof might be leaking but i don’t even want to think about this one right now even though that’s a really bad thing to ignore
* both my aunt carol (mom’s sister) and my dad recently fell again -- not enough damage to require ER but it was enough to convince them to finally use walkers as it’s like fall #5 for both of them so that’s a relief
* I usually try to spread inventory re-orders out at the shop but about twice a year they all come due at the same time so I’ve been scrambling to order from NINE manufacturers and it’s so many things 😩 -- I’ve still got 3 places to go but good news is the shop is busy which means we’re making money
Aunt Carol hit her face when she went down, and the bridge of her nose swelled up so much we’ve been calling her a Bajoran (she’s a big Star Trek fan) and it makes her laugh so hard it hurts which is fun 😂
I need a nap, but I’m having trouble sleeping lately, and with all the home stuff going on, I haven’t been able to do my gum/my reset in almost 3 weeks, so my head stuff is flaring a bit.
I miss doing fandom things and gaming and writing 💜
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Jul. 16th, 2021 10:02 amMy aunt carol (70 years old) who worked as a phlebotomist for years and as a medical transcriptionist for years told me over the phone yesterday that she was all excited Andre got his first Covid-19 vaccine that day because she was finally able to spend the day with him without a mask
and I’m like only his FIRST shot?! and he JUST got it?!
like you do know he has to have both of the shots and even then he’s gotta wait a couple weeks for HIM to be safe
but YOU’RE still not safe because YOU’RE not vaccinated?!
She was like yeah but he had the shot!
My mom overheard us and she said “does getting a flu shot help the guy next to you who didn’t get a flu shot?”
Aunt Carol was quiet for the longest time.
I said something about true herd immunity vs ONE person in your life who got ONE dose of a 2-dose vaccine for something when only about 60% of the US population is fully vaccinated for it and she was like
oh yeah that was stupid of me
The worst part is everyone else living in the house AND in Andre’s house thought the same thing.
And then they wonder why I refuse to let them in my house and why I’m still wearing a mask and staying away from people.
and I’m like only his FIRST shot?! and he JUST got it?!
like you do know he has to have both of the shots and even then he’s gotta wait a couple weeks for HIM to be safe
but YOU’RE still not safe because YOU’RE not vaccinated?!
She was like yeah but he had the shot!
My mom overheard us and she said “does getting a flu shot help the guy next to you who didn’t get a flu shot?”
Aunt Carol was quiet for the longest time.
I said something about true herd immunity vs ONE person in your life who got ONE dose of a 2-dose vaccine for something when only about 60% of the US population is fully vaccinated for it and she was like
oh yeah that was stupid of me
The worst part is everyone else living in the house AND in Andre’s house thought the same thing.
And then they wonder why I refuse to let them in my house and why I’m still wearing a mask and staying away from people.
when my mom disappeared
Jun. 22nd, 2021 03:41 pmMy grandma died when I was 8, and the man my father (Nelson) was died with her.
He hadn’t been a super attentive father, but my mom tells me he played with me every day when he got home from work, and we went on vacations as a family.
He listened to me. He liked being around me, and apparently I liked being around him. He loved games, so we spent a lot of time at arcades, and he would invite my friends to go along too and pay their way.
Nelson didn’t handle his mom’s death well, and he turned into an angry, distant person who didn’t even seem to realize I was still there for a few years.
When he did start to notice me, it was to yell at me for something or complain or demand something. He wasn’t nice anymore. Ever.
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He hadn’t been a super attentive father, but my mom tells me he played with me every day when he got home from work, and we went on vacations as a family.
He listened to me. He liked being around me, and apparently I liked being around him. He loved games, so we spent a lot of time at arcades, and he would invite my friends to go along too and pay their way.
Nelson didn’t handle his mom’s death well, and he turned into an angry, distant person who didn’t even seem to realize I was still there for a few years.
When he did start to notice me, it was to yell at me for something or complain or demand something. He wasn’t nice anymore. Ever.
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don't wanna be an adult anymore
Apr. 24th, 2021 04:51 pmTaking care of adult things is way harder than I thought it would be when I was a kid. I couldn’t wait to make all the decisions. Stupid kid 🤣
I’m trying to rearrange our family cell plan and devices.
We have so many people on the plan that we have a main account and a side account under the same name. It’s a pain, but now that they have plans that allow for more people, I wanted to get switched over.
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I’m trying to rearrange our family cell plan and devices.
We have so many people on the plan that we have a main account and a side account under the same name. It’s a pain, but now that they have plans that allow for more people, I wanted to get switched over.
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a good thing? uhm?
Mar. 20th, 2021 09:11 amJust got a call out of the blue from my psych doc. She’s the one that takes care of my whole family and everyone in the family has given permission to talk freely with me so she tells me EVERYTHING.
P-doc was upset about my Aunt Carol losing weight too fast, but Carol is stubborn and ridiculous so I talked P-doc down from wanting to throw her into the hospital over it.
Carol is extremely frustrating.
Like I can’t even explain to you how frustrating this woman is. Of course the fact that she’s frustrating a P-doc who has worked in mental illness her entire career probably tells more than I could explain.
We then talked about how everybody else is doing, and by the end of the conversation the P-doc said, “I don’t mean this in an insulting way, I’m actually impressed, but I have absolutely no idea how your mental health is doing so well when your family is so, pardon my French, fucking batshit.”
I laughed and said yeah I’ve talked about that with my mom and Charlie, and they say in a tongue-in-cheek way that my family is actually the reason I’m doing so well because I’m distracted away from my own issues and have something else to focus on.
She did a big belly laugh at that and was like yeah well I dunno about that, but whatever it is I’m really happy you’re doing so well.
She had 1 toxic family member -- her brother. She had to cut him out of her life about 12 years ago, and it was hard, but after a while she realized how amazing life is without that toxicity, and she and her mom are SO MUCH happier without him around. Seriously, like this dude almost literally killed them multiple times, is bipolar and won’t take medication or get help, is into drugs, guns, illegal shit, etc.
But I told her yeah I’ve thought about what it would be like to just leave my whole family behind. Told her I’ve wondered what it would feel like to have all of this just GONE from my life.
She said yeah I’m not saying you DON’T have schizophrenia, but it’s gotta mess with your head wondering sometimes if you actually do have it because your family is so intense you’ve gotta wonder if they’re the entire cause.
I said yeah every once in a while I wonder if all my symptoms are my family, but some of the symptoms can’t be blamed on them, like my lack of social skills and connections to humans and communication difficulties. Those things wouldn’t be changed by them being gone even if the psychosis went away completely.
She said yeah that she wasn’t trying to trip me out and wasn’t suggesting I DIDN’T have it, more she just worried that I was thinking that.
I was like nah, I know there’s something fundamentally different about my brain - I don’t doubt that, but I do wonder what I’d be like and if I could possibly get rid of psychosis for the most part without constant family insanity.
Maybe one of these days I’ll find out :D
P-doc was upset about my Aunt Carol losing weight too fast, but Carol is stubborn and ridiculous so I talked P-doc down from wanting to throw her into the hospital over it.
Carol is extremely frustrating.
Like I can’t even explain to you how frustrating this woman is. Of course the fact that she’s frustrating a P-doc who has worked in mental illness her entire career probably tells more than I could explain.
We then talked about how everybody else is doing, and by the end of the conversation the P-doc said, “I don’t mean this in an insulting way, I’m actually impressed, but I have absolutely no idea how your mental health is doing so well when your family is so, pardon my French, fucking batshit.”
I laughed and said yeah I’ve talked about that with my mom and Charlie, and they say in a tongue-in-cheek way that my family is actually the reason I’m doing so well because I’m distracted away from my own issues and have something else to focus on.
She did a big belly laugh at that and was like yeah well I dunno about that, but whatever it is I’m really happy you’re doing so well.
She had 1 toxic family member -- her brother. She had to cut him out of her life about 12 years ago, and it was hard, but after a while she realized how amazing life is without that toxicity, and she and her mom are SO MUCH happier without him around. Seriously, like this dude almost literally killed them multiple times, is bipolar and won’t take medication or get help, is into drugs, guns, illegal shit, etc.
But I told her yeah I’ve thought about what it would be like to just leave my whole family behind. Told her I’ve wondered what it would feel like to have all of this just GONE from my life.
She said yeah I’m not saying you DON’T have schizophrenia, but it’s gotta mess with your head wondering sometimes if you actually do have it because your family is so intense you’ve gotta wonder if they’re the entire cause.
I said yeah every once in a while I wonder if all my symptoms are my family, but some of the symptoms can’t be blamed on them, like my lack of social skills and connections to humans and communication difficulties. Those things wouldn’t be changed by them being gone even if the psychosis went away completely.
She said yeah that she wasn’t trying to trip me out and wasn’t suggesting I DIDN’T have it, more she just worried that I was thinking that.
I was like nah, I know there’s something fundamentally different about my brain - I don’t doubt that, but I do wonder what I’d be like and if I could possibly get rid of psychosis for the most part without constant family insanity.
Maybe one of these days I’ll find out :D
