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Oh and an update to the last post! Because he didn't suck enough already.
He just now came into my room and said "I didn't really drink any of it yet. I just wanted to see if it would freak you out."
This is nothing new with him. Mindgames constantly. He was stupid enough to take the water into his room without paying attention to the packaging, but hadn't actually drank any yet.
With the help of therapy and other people who know how to deal with MNPD (malignant narcissistic personality disorder), I'm learning how to respond so...
My response was "Oh I wasn't worried" and went back to what I was doing.
The less emotion you put into things and the less you let people with MNPD cause events, the less damage they cause and the less they get out of the interaction.
I had already looked up the ingredients to see if he needed a hospital visit, but I didn't tell him I did that. He doesn't need to know I wasted time looking something up for his benefit.
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Dec. 31st, 2023 10:46 amdad: hey thanks for getting me more water!
me: what water?
dad: the water you left for me on the living room table
me: that's not yours. DO NOT drink that.
dad: why?
me: it's distilled water.
dad: is there something wrong with that?
me: besides distilled water not being good for humans to drink regularly, this water is specifically fortified for carnivorous plants. with fertilizer.
dad: ... okay?
me: humans can't drink it. that's what it says on the packaging.
dad: oh. i already drank about 1/4 gallon of it.
me: i guess i get to look up all the ingredients and see if you need to go to the hospital
- It boggles my mind that men of his age and disposition surround themselves with enough people to take care of them that they can make it to 80 years old without dying or severely injuring themselves.
BTW the water was in completely different containers than the drinking water I get him, I never put his water on the living room table, and I always tell him when I've gotten him more of his water.
Unfortunately for me and my mom, he didn't drink enough to ☠️
(he's an abusive asshole so that's why I said that last bit)
is romance mental illness?
Aug. 25th, 2023 09:53 amIt's a genuine question from an aromantic (i.e. me)
And please stay with me for a minute before you give me an automatic NO.
I don't think I've ever truly been in love, and I don't have romantic feelings myself. I'll perform romantic acts for partners to fulfill their needs, but that's it.
So lemme break this down.
The first stage of a budding romance borders on obsession yet it's called a "crush" like it's cute.
They'll screw with everyone around them and each other for no reason other than they're playing fun little courting games.
I realize that they probably don't even know what they're doing to other people, but that doesn't stop the damage.
Over the years they drag their children and grandchildren into the mess, and if the fire dies between them, they divorce and devastate everyone around them regardless of anyone but themselves and due to no fault on anyone else's part.
I'm not saying don't get a divorce if you're in a bad situation. I'm trying to understand all this shit.
The people surrounding lovers wave it off and say "ah it's just love" but like why does the love of two people have to slam a wrecking ball into entire groups of people?
Now I know movies aren't real life, but extremely romantic people LOVE romantic movies and watch them with hearteyes like this is #lifegoals
Top Romantic Movies of All Time (according to popularity)
- House on Haunted Hill (grandma's favorite romance) 1959: Love interests fuck with EVERYONE around them, manipulating them and playing games with on-again-off-again disasters and leading woman even plans to marry another dude (who is made to look like the villain even though he's a decent yet uncool guy) before dumping him last minute for her sick obsession guy
- The Notebook 2004: Two people who become obsessed with each other and fuck with EVERYONE around them and cause drama with "oh I can't be with them because ___" when the only thing that's stopping them is their own contrived reasons, manipulating and messing with friends, family (including kids/grandkids), healthcare workers, and the audience
- Casablanca 1942: Saw it when I was little and don't remember much, but I remember being disgusted at their behavior and all for nothing in the end.
- Pride & Prejudice 2005: Games?! Like constantly? Help?!
- When Harry Met Sally 1989: They KNOW they're not compatible. THEY KNOW. But don't let that stop you from fucking with entire groups of people over YEARS until people can't even stand either of you anymore and then you just walk away like you're so noble to realize you're not compatible.
- Titanic 1997: Seriously? Let's run around a ship playing tag and sneaking and tee-hee and screw over people who actually like you guys only to pull some epic stupid shit that literally gets people killed only to end on the oh-so-noble "I'm dying for her!!" trope when he didn't even need to and THEN cut to the fucking old bat that says it was all a lie anyway to screw with the audience's heads.
- Romeo and Juliet: Do I need to explain?
- Beauty and the Beast 1991: Be/stiality + coercion bordering on slavery?!
- Brokeback Mountain 2005: This one kinda sorta gets a pass because they were living in a time/place they couldn't be out, but some of the people around them did nothing to deserve being treated like that.
- A Star is Born (both versions): Screw with everybody's heads because it's fun and cute amiright? All just to get off on it.
Don't even get me started on Disney movies. It's like they TRY to teach kids this is good and normal.
Granted the average couple in love doesn't get people killed like it does in movies, but sometimes it does, and it ruins lives.
The collateral damage is INSANE.
I'm not just saying this because of all the collateral damage I get from my parents and other family members.
I see it in almost every relationship I've ever seen. It's what made me decide as a kid that I never wanted to get married because it looked like hell. Am I wrong?
Standing on the outside looking in, I can't see it as anything other than mental illness, but I'm open to other thoughts.
Give me something because how can this be loving? There's no compassion. No empathy. No sense of right and wrong.
Is this why asexuals can't even comprehend allos? I mean at least I've got a sex drive that means I'll put up with some shit just to get laid.
all my cousins suck
Feb. 6th, 2021 04:37 pmShe’s an alcoholic.
Marissa just watched her little sister drink herself to death a few months ago, and now she’s watching her 20-something-year-old daughter do the same thing.
Meagan moved out of Charlie/Marissa’s house again a few months back, got an apartment, and got her own insurance car.
In 8 the weeks she was “on her own” this time, she managed to get the police called on her 3 times over fights with the downstairs neighbor (who just wants to live peacefully without a drunk asshole physically and verbally assaulting her, screaming and banging on doors in the middle of the night, and passing out on the front lawn), almost lose her job 5 times, and get put on a 72-hour hold 3 times.
That’s before Thursday.
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