it's not fun anymore :(

[mayalaen]

Y’know that fun little game my dad has been playing for years -- the one where he tells everybody we’re mean to him and don’t feed him or we give him shitty food and we don’t let him leave the house ever or do anything he wants to do?

I’ve complained about it here before but if you missed it, it’s a thing he does.

And up until very recently it was apparently a fun game for him. We’ve tried to get him to stop over the years because it’s caused TONS of issues.

Two of his friends contacted us separately on two different occasions (they didn’t do it together) to try to get us to stop abusing him.

Another friend (who is on a fixed income and almost blind) sent him a care package of shirts and underwear IN HIS SIZE and the brand he likes when he told said friend that we refused to do his laundry -- we didn’t, my mom had just had a seizure and was down for 2 days.

I’ve actually worried that he’s going to get us in trouble with an adult protection agency because of the things he says.

Anyway he came to me and my mom today and asked how he could change his relationship with his best friend who lives in another state because “he’s hurting my feelings.”

When we got to the bottom of it, it’s because his buddy is a very negative person, and every time he talks to him he’s telling my dad he’s gotta get away from us because we’re horrible.

But that’s not what my dad wants to do because my dad KNOWS he’s got it good here.

He does almost NOTHING (literally taking out the garbage once a week is the only thing he does here) and we take care of everything and he gets a hot meal every day and anything else he asks for.

We do actually take him out and even encourage him to get out more and even gently pushed him into working on a motor again after years of self-imposed “I can’t do anything” attitude and he’s loving it.

But he actually said the words “well now it’s affecting me and I don’t like it anymore -- he hurt my feelings”

Sooooo it’s suddenly not fun anymore and so NOW he wants it to stop.

It didn’t matter when it was hurting everybody else. Nah, it’s fun and he doesn’t wanna stop. Oh but now that HE’S feeling a little something he doesn’t like, he wants to cut off all ties with his friend just to get it to stop.

Even though he’s fed on this attention from all his friends and his side of the family for DECADES.

I know he’s got the whole malignant narcissistic personality disorder thing going, and I’m learning better how to deal with it, but sometimes it still REALLY impresses me sometimes how horrible these people are.

And he’ll admit it right to your face like it’s not a horrible thing and then wait for us to feel bad for him and tell him how to fix it.

I left the room and let my mom deal with it. I don’t have the time to deal with it and I certainly don’t have any compassion left in me in regards to him.

He burned that away years ago.