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[mayalaen]

IRL people: how do i do a thing?

me: this is how you do the thing along with sources

IRL people: i guess

IRL people five minutes later: hey i read this on how to do the thing and it’s such good information!! LOOOOOK!!

me: these are all the things i already said

IRL people: you said that?

Stop asking me shit if you’re just going to waste my time. I get it that people ask for advice and then make their own decisions, and sometimes it’ll go against the advice they were given, but to CONSTANTLY ask for advice/help, ignore it, and then come back to tell me right to my face about the brand new amazing shit you just found that’s exactly what I already said?




Almost everyone does this to me. At least if you're gonna ignore me and find your brand new never-before-heard-of info, don't tell me about it.

This post comes after my dad came out of his room to show me all the exercises and info he found about his leg issue that was literally the same exact shit I told him about and showed him just four fucking days ago.

Why do people do this? Do I give off these vibes? Or are these sort of people attracted to me?

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[shipperslist]

My ex did this to me and I hated it. He also tended to redo things I already did (like search for flights and hotel for a trip I already planned and he wasn’t even coming to) and then got offended when I wasn’t tearfully grateful but rather annoyed instead. Understanding that I didn’t need his condescending attitude seemed to be beyond him.

[mayalaen]

Ooooooh!! This helps because I thought it was not listening or forgetting, but when you describe your ex and the behavior, that sounds like manipulation. Every single one of the people that do this to me are extremely manipulative people, but I wasn't seeing this particular thing as manipulation.

I've said before that every single thing that comes out of my dad's face is a manipulation, but it sometimes still throws me when it's LITERALLY every single word out of his mouth.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with this too. I'm glad they're your ex and not current, and hopefully they don't mess with you anymore 💜

[shipperslist]

TBF, it's still very hard for me to think about it as manipulation because I'm sure there were times when I was just as bad. And yet, at the same time, I know I didn't purposefully needle him and then play a martyr when he blew up which is what he did to me. I don't know.