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Mar. 27th, 2021 01:56 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
mayalaenI need some perspective here, if you don’t mind.
I’m schizophrenic. I know you’re all shocked! But my idea of a reasonable amount of effort is rarely what reasonable really is.
For example, it was only a few years ago that I learned what delegating responsibility really was because I see shitty workers on TV and figured people are too lazy or unskilled or have a bad attitude so “delegating” meant asking someone once to do something and if they don’t do it or don’t continue doing it or do it poorly, I just take the job back without saying anything because I want it done right. I now know what delegating is and how to do it.
So here’s what I need perspective on from someone outside my family because my family is full of overachievers who go too hard.
Walking the dog: If/when a non-schizophrenic, non-overachiever takes their dog for a walk (this includes other neurodivergents because from what I’ve seen y’all may not be “normal” by a non-neurodivergent’s standards, but in this particular area you’re closer to “normal” than I am) is 3-5 miles normal?
I promise I’m not trying to brag (if it’s too much) and I’m also not going to beat myself up (if it’s too little). I can back off or work my way up.
I use what other people view as normal to gauge what level I should go at not in an “I’m better than you” or “I suck and you’re so much better than me” way but really as a guide. I’ve done it all my life and it works well.
The reason I ask is there are 3 other people in the neighborhood who walk their dogs around the same time I do. All 3 of them walk around 1 block. Probably 1/4 mile? Maybe less? Is that because they’re putting in minimal effort just to say they walked their dog or is that normal?
Roo is a terrier and she has tons of energy, so she’s thrilled to go as long as I’m able, but I also don’t want to do damage to my body. I’m not a small person, I’m not athletic, but I have a lot of stamina and things just don’t seem difficult -- I always see people pushing themselves on TV just to walk a mile or 2 unless they’re athletic so I know I’m a little off on that.
I can’t ask my family because Marissa run-hikes a mountain every morning 10 miles and Charlie relieves stress by fast walking until he wears himself out and can sleep after an episode anywhere from 2-10 miles.
My psych doc gave me a weird look when I said how much I walk, but she wouldn’t say why.
I’m schizophrenic. I know you’re all shocked! But my idea of a reasonable amount of effort is rarely what reasonable really is.
For example, it was only a few years ago that I learned what delegating responsibility really was because I see shitty workers on TV and figured people are too lazy or unskilled or have a bad attitude so “delegating” meant asking someone once to do something and if they don’t do it or don’t continue doing it or do it poorly, I just take the job back without saying anything because I want it done right. I now know what delegating is and how to do it.
So here’s what I need perspective on from someone outside my family because my family is full of overachievers who go too hard.
Walking the dog: If/when a non-schizophrenic, non-overachiever takes their dog for a walk (this includes other neurodivergents because from what I’ve seen y’all may not be “normal” by a non-neurodivergent’s standards, but in this particular area you’re closer to “normal” than I am) is 3-5 miles normal?
I promise I’m not trying to brag (if it’s too much) and I’m also not going to beat myself up (if it’s too little). I can back off or work my way up.
I use what other people view as normal to gauge what level I should go at not in an “I’m better than you” or “I suck and you’re so much better than me” way but really as a guide. I’ve done it all my life and it works well.
The reason I ask is there are 3 other people in the neighborhood who walk their dogs around the same time I do. All 3 of them walk around 1 block. Probably 1/4 mile? Maybe less? Is that because they’re putting in minimal effort just to say they walked their dog or is that normal?
Roo is a terrier and she has tons of energy, so she’s thrilled to go as long as I’m able, but I also don’t want to do damage to my body. I’m not a small person, I’m not athletic, but I have a lot of stamina and things just don’t seem difficult -- I always see people pushing themselves on TV just to walk a mile or 2 unless they’re athletic so I know I’m a little off on that.
I can’t ask my family because Marissa run-hikes a mountain every morning 10 miles and Charlie relieves stress by fast walking until he wears himself out and can sleep after an episode anywhere from 2-10 miles.
My psych doc gave me a weird look when I said how much I walk, but she wouldn’t say why.